Sunday I shared an unusual obituary. It has all the appearances of a hoax. Snopes.com identifies it as true and has additional background information on the story of Dolores Aguilar. The Sunday message was titled "Leaving a Lasting Legacy." Our legacy may be good or it may be bad...regardless...we will all leave a legacy. The Aguilar obituary stands as a warning and challenge to us all.We have no control over the first date on our tombstone. We don't determine the last date. The one thing we do have a say in is the DASH between those two dates. What are you doing with your DASH. It's important to remember that we are writing our obituary today. Live your DASH well.
Dolores Aguilar 1929 - Aug. 7, 2008
Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us onAugust 7, 2008 in Napa, California.She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond,her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby.She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella,Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren,Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania,Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny,Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren,Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna,Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed,Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samanthaand Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.
Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society andrarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will notbe missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing. Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too.
Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society andrarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will notbe missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing. Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too.
But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again. There will be no service, no prayers and no closure forthe family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.
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